At the beginning of this chapter described about how the swift flow of emotion from both parents for their children, including the influence of emotions that have a direct effect on children's emotions. As the following story:
"Here's a small tragedy. Carl and Ann are teaching Leslie, their daughter who was five years old, how to play new video games. But when Leslie began to play, efforts his parents are too eager to "help" her make a little disturbed. Commands conflicting thrown everywhere.
"Right, right-stop. Stop. stop! "Ann, the mother, urging her voice growing louder and more nervous. While Leslie, as he pursed his lips and watched in wide eyed into the video screen, trying to follow the instructions that.
"Look, you're not straight ... turn left! Left! "Carl, father of the girl shouting orders.
Finally, the commands of his parents are not the same as making the child cry, even though it is not known by the parents. Children who feel confused stressful, a surge of parental pressure to follow orders, which should bring on the fun the game, actually be an excellent outburst against his parents.
In the context of this story, what a flood of emotions the parents can flow easily to the child. For Leslie on this incident, the he considers none of the parents to give attention to it, or at least the affection that he expected turn into temper tantrums. If this occurs frequently and in re in children, it will cause an emotional message that is fundamental to the life of a child for life.
The family is the first place in emotional learning, the ability to feel our feelings and the feelings of others, came from family life. Experiences in the family environment is one guide for children, to how to forward them to apply their emotions. Including the ability to make choices in certain situations. Parents become the first model in establishing the child's emotional development. Through examples and events in a family environment certainly affects the child's emotional development.
Summarized from "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel goleman.
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